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About us About us Our team Our board of directors Publications Our free and confidential services are offered 365 days a year, 24 hours a day The shetler Le Parados' mission is to welcome and shelter women who have experienced violence and their children. In addition to providing a safe place to live, we ensure their immediate needs are met, facilitate their social integration, study, promote, protect, and develop their economic and social rights and interests in every possible way. Our values Respect (for oneself, for others and for the resource) Have consideration and recognition, for oneself and others, even when faced with differences. Autonomy Believe, use and develop your potential and personal power. Reflect, make decisions and act by and for yourself. Solidarity In our common interest, develop the bonds that bring us together for our collective and individual well-being. Our approach At Parados, the intersectional feminist approach is at the heart of our interventions. We prioritize taking into consideration each womans particular experience, values, culture, religion, language, sexual orientation and everything that may impact them as woman... As professionals, who are aware that our personal experiences may color our perceptions we attempt to, we support our clients in a process of devictimization in order to restores a sense of power over their lives. The Parados approach focuses on the needs and priorities of the women and promotes the understanding of domestic violence as a social phenomenon rather than in terms of family or relationship conflict. Based on the concept of empowerment, our interventions attempt to give women power over their situation, their lives, their bodies, both collectively and individually. The bond of trust established with women aims to better equip them to strengthen, enhance and restore their self-esteem following the violence they have experienced. Average clientele per year 52 Sheltered women 83 Sheltered children 51 Women benefited from our external services 29 Children benefited from our external services

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Accueil The Parados is a shelter and support house for women who have experienced violence and their children. About us Need help ? How to contribute ? News School awareness ​ The Parados continues to raise awareness among students in the Lachine, Dorval, and Lasalle areas for this school year. March 8 - International Women's Day Follow our Instagram account to learn more about the 8 inspiring women we have chosen to feature in honor of this day. ​ ​ The summer holidays are approaching Just a reminder, Le Parados remains open throughout the holidays. You can contact us anytime at 514 637-3529 ​

Become a volunteer Helping a victim Becoming volunteer Join le Parados Make a donation It is in a spirit of partnership that Le Parados opens its doors to voluntary action, thus allowing it to expand and improve services to its customers. ​ We have various volunteer resource needs such as: Companion Accompany a resident for procedures that do not require police presence (e.g.: apartment visits, appointments with the doctor or hospital, etc.). Children's facilitator Assurer les soins de base des enfants, leur sécurité, les repas ainsi que des périodes de jeux et de repos lorsque leur mère doit s’absenter. Assister le personnel dans la réalisation des tâches à faire. Participate in special events Participate in the preparation and execution of various special events such as a Christmas party, an outing to the sugar shack, fundraising activities, etc. Contact us to become a volunteer

Je contribue The major Parados campaign will finance the construction and the services of its very first second stage home (MH2). For women who have left an abusive situation, this new service will offer ongoing support and accommodation usually lasting from a few months to two years, which is a crucial interim step between staying in a shelter and settling into permanent accommodation. The MH2 du Parados house will be located near our premises, thus allowing families to live in the same neighborhood, which will promote their integration into the community and the educational success of young people who will not have to change schools or school service center. Aider une victime Devenir bénévole Travailler au Parados Donner pour les femmes et enfants du Parados Merci de votre aide

Our services Our free and confidential services are available 365 days a year, 24 hours a day Declaration of services Le Parados supports and offers accompanement to women who are victims of violence and their children free of charge, without distinction of age, social status, origin, citizenship status, ability, belief, or sexual orientation. ​ Le Parados can support women regardless of their backgrounds as our interventions can be translated into any language. Help line External services for women and children Shelter Awareness an education in the community

I need help Whether it's understanding a situation or helping to find the right resource, Le Parados supports each and every woman in her journey. Understanding violence Frequently asked questions and testimonials Getting ready to leave Useful links What should I do if I have questions? It's not always easy to realize that you're a victim of violence in your romantic relationship. If you have questions, the SOS violence conjugale test will help you understand your situation Take the test

I give We express our deepest gratitude to all those who, through their generosity, support our mission of welcoming and supporting women victims of violence and their children. Your donations form the foundation of our commitment and allow us to provide safe haven and essential services to those who need them most. ​ Every contribution helps transform lives and sow the seeds of a better future. Make a cash or check donation Please forward your donation to: The Parados Box 35054 Dorval (Quebec) H9S5W4 Make a donation online Cliquez-ici Thank you for your support

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What is violence? Understanding violence Getting ready to leave Frequently Asked Questions Useful links Domestic violence is unique because it intrudes between two individuals with an emotional bond . It cannot be considered as apassing difficulties in the relationship, as it reflects a social problem caused by inequality and power dynamics between men and women in society. All women can be victims of domestic violence, regardless of age, ethnic origin, social class, level of education, religion, or socio-economic status. ​ Domestic violence includes verbal, psychological, physical, and sexual assaults, as well as acts of social, economic, and spiritual/religious domination. It represents a choice to control the partner, a way to dominate her. Domestic violence insidiously and gradually establishes itself. It is characterized by its cyclical nature, which takes the women who are victims hostage. Indeed, alternating between violent acts and promises from the partner sustains the hope of a healthy and respectful relationship for the abused woman. Understanding the whirlwind in which the woman finds herself helps to understand why it is sometimes so difficult to consider leaving this relationship, either permanently or temporarily. . Distinguishing conflict from violence It is sometimes difficult to distinguish between an argument, which may involve aggressive acts, and violence. However, certain elements help to differentiate the two phenomena. Conflit Violence The pursuit of power The presence of a cycle Accountability, apologies, empathy. The presence of compromises The parties involved want to find a solution and may seek to gain control over the situation . ​ (Example: I want to turn off the television to sleep, I become aggressive because despite my arguments and obvious fatigue, the other person refuses. My goal is to sleep.) Conflict arises with the arrival of a triggering event (which may sometimes seem trivial to one of the partners). It is not always possible to anticipate this conflict A conflict can lead to inappropriate remarks or actions. In this case, the person responsible for them will be able to acknowledge their responsibility , apologize , and take steps to avoid repeating them . ​ (Example : I shouldn't have insulted you. I was tired and I couldn't control myself. I was foolish to react that way. Next time, I won't say that.) The conflict is characterized by the presence of compromises to allow all parties to find a solution that suits them. The autor of violence seeks to gain control over the person , regardless of the situation ​ (Example: I want to turn off the television to sleep. I become aggressive because the other person asks me to wait until the end of the episode, in 3 minutes. My goal is to emphasize that when I say it's time to turn it off, we turn it off.) Domestic violence follows a cycle of four phases that repeat endlessly. The crisis can occur without a triggering element ​ Generally, in a violent relationship, the perpetrator is not able to recognize their responsibility . They will therefore not offer sincere apologies and will seek to justify their behavior, often by blaming the victim . The perpetrator appears reluctant to make amends. ​ (Example: I shouldn't have insulted you, but if you had turned off the television, I wouldn't have reacted like that. You know how I am when I'm tired.) ​ ​ ​ In a case of domestic violence, it's always the same person who " wins " and compromises are always made by the victim. The cycle of violence Domestic violence is characterized by a cycle of four phases that repeat. Tension : The perpetrator exhibits colder, more irritable behavior and may use threats. The victim feels the need to "walk on eggshells" to avoid triggering a crisis. ​ Aggression : The perpetrator carries out the chosen act of violence (physical, psychological, verbal, sexual, etc.). The victim experiences various emotions such as anger, sadness, injustice, etc. ​ Justification : The perpetrator seeks excuses and justifies their behavior, thus absolving themselves of responsibility. The victim questions their actions and emotions, eventually feeling responsible for the situation. The honeymoon phase: The perpetrator demonstrates a conciliatory attitude, showing determination to seek forgiveness at any cost. Meanwhile, the victim adjusts their behavior in anticipation of a return to an idealized relationship. The types of violence Psychological violence : Adopting attitudes and behaviors aimed at destabilizing the victim and compromising their well-being. Verbal violence : Creating with words a feeling of fear, insecurity, or humiliation. Social violence : Controlling the interpersonal relationships of the other by adopting severe and negative judgments of their relationships. Physical violence : Using physical force to control the other and compromise their physical integrity directly or indirectly. Economic violence : Taking control of the family's economic decisions. Spiritual violence : Using religion and beliefs to manipulate, dominate, or control. Technological violence : Using new technologies to control or humiliate. Sexual violence : Using behaviors, words, and gestures with sexual connotations in a context of absence of consent. Post-separation violence : Subjecting one's ex-partner to any form of violence. Coercive control Coercive control helps to better understand the grip that can exist between the victim and the perpetrator of domestic violence. ​ This concept was developed by Evan Stark, an American researcher in sociology and social work. He describes coercive control as a tendency toward non-physical violence between intimate partners. According to him, coercive control encompasses various tactics aimed at hurting, humiliating, exploiting, isolating, and dominating the victim. ​ Coercive control highlights the cumulative and invisible effect of the aggressor's strategies, many of which may be perceived as harmless. The ultimate goal of coercive control is to eliminate the victim's sense of freedom. Isolating the person from their friends Monitoring the person through various means Controlling the money held or spent by the person Belittling, humiliating, or insulting the person Threatening to harm the person Threatening to disclose personal information etc. Examples of coercive control Violence physique Utiliser la force physique afin de contrôler l'autre et de compromettre son intégrité physique de façon directe ou indirecte. Violence économique S'approprier les décisions économiques de la famille. Violence spirituelle Utiliser la religion et les croyances pour manipuler, dominer ou contrôler. Violence technologique Utiliser les nouvelles technologies pour contrôler ou humilier. Violence sexuelle Utiliser des comportements, paroles et gestes à connotation sexuelle, dans un contexte d'absence de consentement. Violence post-séparation Faire vivre toute forme de violence à son ex-partenaire The consequences of violence for the victims Domestic violence shakes every aspect of the victims’ lives. ​ Consequences on general health : Fatigue; Anemia; Headache; Sleep disorders, including insomnia and nightmares; eating disorder. Psychological consequences : Fear; Anger; Loss of self-esteem; Feeling of shame and guilt; Feeling of helplessness and confusion in the face of the situation; Isolation; Depression; Suicidal thoughts; Symptoms of post-traumatic stress (intrusive memories, recurring dreams, flashbacks), etc. Physical consequences : Bruising; Cuts; Burns; Scratches; Scars; Fractures; Dislocations; Damage to internal organs; Murder. Sexual consequences : Pain; Chronic vaginal or urinary infections; Unwanted pregnancies; Miscarriages; Sexually transmitted and blood-borne infections (STBBI); Fear of intimacy. Socio-economic consequences : Loss of concentration; Absenteeism at work; Reduced income; Job Loss; Social isolation. The consequences for children exposed to violence The exposure of children to domestic violence is very harmful and is considered a form of psychological mistreatment according to the Youth Protection Law (LPJ). Whether they are physically present during episodes of violence or hear the screams, these children live in a climate of tension and fear and can be affected at different levels (physical, psychological, emotional, cognitive and social). The consequences on children are numerous and manifest themselves in different ways depending on the child. Would you like to talk about your situation with our counselors? Contact us.

Frequently Asked Questions Understanding violence Getting ready to leave Frequently Asked Questions Useful links Est-ce que cet endroit est sécuritaire pour moi et mes enfants ? Au Parados, nous mettons un point d'honneur à garantir votre sécurité en toutes circonstances. Nos intervenantes veilleront en premier lieu à ce que votre intégration dans notre structure se fasse en toute sécurité, en tenant compte de votre situation personnelle. Notre adresse demeure confidentielle en tout temps, et nous mettons en place des mesures de protection pour garantir votre sécurité. Notre bâtiment est sécurisé, et en cas de menace pour votre sécurité, nos intervenantes travailleront en collaboration avec vous pour trouver la meilleure solution afin de réassurer votre sécurité ainsi que celle des autres résidentes. Je peux bénéficier des services du Parados sans statut ? Notre maison d'aide et d'hébergement offre un refuge sûr aux femmes victimes de violences et à leurs enfants. Nous accueillons toutes les personnes, indépendamment de leur statut ou situation. Notre mission est de fournir un soutien inconditionnel et des ressources essentielles pour aider les victimes à se reconstruire et à retrouver leur autonomie dans un environnement sécurisé et bienveillant. Dois-je porter plainte contre mon agresseur pour bénéficier des services du Parados? Le Parados offre un soutien inconditionnel aux femmes, indépendamment de leur décision de déposer plainte ou non. Notre maison s'engage à accueillir et à accompagner chaque femme, en prenant en compte ses besoins et ses objectifs individuels. Nous comprenons l'importance de respecter le rythme de chaque personne que nous accompagnons, reconnaissant que le processus de guérison et de reconstruction peut être différent pour chacune. En offrant nos services sans condition préalable, nous visons à créer un environnement sûr et accueillant où les femmes peuvent trouver le soutien nécessaire pour surmonter les défis auxquels elles sont confrontées, et ce, à leur propre rythme. Puis-je apporter mon animal de compagnie en maison d’hébergement? Malheureusement, notre maison d'hébergement ne permet pas aux résidentes d'apporter leurs animaux de compagnie. Puis-je bénéficier des services du Parados si je n’ai pas d’enfant? Notre structure est dédiée à offrir un lieu sûr et accueillant aux femmes, qu'elles soient accompagnées d'enfants ou non. Nous comprenons que les besoins et les défis peuvent être différents pour chaque femme, et notre engagement est de fournir un soutien adapté à chaque situation individuelle. Au Parados, toutes les femmes sont les bienvenues, et nous sommes là pour vous aider à chaque étape de votre parcours. Puis-je bénéficier des services du Parados si je ne parle ni français ou anglais. Au Parados, nous nous engageons à offrir un soutien inclusif et accessible à toutes les femmes, indépendamment de leur langue maternelle. Nous comprenons que la barrière linguistique peut être un obstacle majeur pour de nombreuses personnes en situation de vulnérabilité. C'est pourquoi nos intervenantes sont formées pour communiquer dans plusieurs langues, afin de répondre aux besoins des femmes parlant des langues différentes. De plus, dans les cas où nous ne disposons pas de personnel parlant la langue nécessaire, nous pouvons fournir des services d'interprétation pour assurer une communication claire et efficace lors des rencontres avec nos intervenantes. Notre objectif est de garantir que toutes les femmes qui franchissent nos portes se sentent comprises, soutenues et capables d'accéder aux services dont elles ont besoin pour reconstruire leur vie dans un environnement sûr et bienveillant. Y a-t-il des règles ou des procédures que je dois connaître pendant mon séjour ? Au Parados, nous avons mis en place diverses règles visant à garantir la sécurité et le bien-être des résidentes. Dès votre arrivée dans la maison, ces règles vous seront présentées, et nos intervenantes seront disponibles tout au long de votre séjour pour en discuter avec vous si nécessaire. Est-ce que les services du Parados sont adaptés aux besoins de mes enfants? À notre maison, nous comprenons l'importance de fournir un soutien complet aux familles affectées par la violence. En fonction de l'âge de vos enfants et en accord avec vos préférences, ils auront la possibilité de recevoir un suivi approprié. Nous sommes chanceux d'avoir plusieurs intervenantes familles, prêtes à aider et à accompagner les mères et leurs enfants. Cela signifie que vos enfants auront l'opportunité de partager leurs expériences et de recevoir un soutien professionnel pour comprendre et surmonter les conséquences de la violence. Nous nous engageons à soutenir non seulement les mères, mais également leurs enfants, dans leur processus de guérison et de reconstruction. Témoignages Le Parados a été pour moi une étape importante dans ma vie. Quand une femme est violentée, la première chose qui s’évanouie en elle est l’estime d’elle-même. Au Parados, j’ai appris dans les petites choses, à me prendre en valeur et à faire des choses pour moi. M’encourager et me féliciter quand c’est le moment. Les intervenantes ont été pour moi des complices de tous les jours. [...] Mon passage dans cette maison a été très édifiant. Pendant que mon mari cherchait à détruire ma vie, j’ai eu un toit et de quoi nourrir mes enfants. Ce n’est pas facile de tout quitter et de se retrouver sans ressource dans une maison d’hébergement. [...] Aujourd’hui, je vis avec mes enfants séparée de leur père. J’ai repris mon travail et pour rien au monde je n’accepterai de revivre ce que j’ai vécu. [...] J’ai retrouvé l’estime de moi et surtout, mes enfants vivent dans un milieu sans violence…ils ne voient plus Papa qui frappe Maman. Anonyme